After the Funeral
Grief is our natural response to loss in our lives. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and people have different ways of grieving. When someone dies, family and friends can find it difficult to cope with the tremendous grief they experience, and can be unprepared for important decisions and arrangements that need to be made.
Fountains Funerals & Monuments understand the needs of families and friends going through the stress of bereavement. After the funeral they offer a free book, “Now What?” a guide for people living with the death of someone close, by highly regarded Grief Counsellor Lois Tonkin. A colourful poster called Remembering to Live is also available for children.
At Fountains we are committed to providing ongoing care and support to our bereaved families. Grief takes time, at Fountains we recognise this and offer you, or immediate family members, a complimentary support service with our bereavement counsellor, Emma Love.
We can offer a listening ear and someone to talk with who can support you in your grief and loss. We can also provide contact details and information regarding supports groups, agencies and library resources which are available within our community to help you through this time.
WHO CAN USE THIS SERVICE?
Any member of a family who has used Fountains for the funeral arrangements for their loved one can use this support service. We will contact you a few weeks after the funeral to see how you are going, however if you wish to speak with us before this, please feel free to do so.
WAYS TO HELP YOURSELF THROUGH GRIEF
- Exercise regularly – choose an activity that you enjoy.
- Maintain a balanced diet and take supplements if you need to.
- Structure your time. Keep routines as normal as possible (especially where children are concerned) – prepare a list of things to do.
- Spend time with others and also allow yourself some time out.
- Do things that make you feel good.
- Talk to people. Express your emotions clearly and honestly to those you trust.
- Write down some of your thoughts or feelings.
- Limit your use of drugs or alcohol.
- Keep important decisions for a later time. Your judgement may for the moment be impaired. Take your time.
- Ask for help when you need it.
- Above all, be GENTLE with yourself!
For information or advice please click here or contact Fountains Funerals & Monuments at Papakura on 09 298 2957 or at Manukau on 09 266 6177.